So yesterday Lucy had her telephone counselling session with a counsellor from TheGender GP.
As you can imagine the lead
up to the telephone call was nerve wracking. She was given a telephone number,
name and a time to call. She went out and got her eyebrows threaded (the best
they have been done so far I have to say – they look amazing), walked the dog,
had a shower and tried to relax as much as she could but was full of excitement
She went up to our bedroom to
make the call – not because the house was full of people, the opposite in fact
as we were all out, but just it was away from everything and any distractions.
She rung the number and it
was answered by a ‘male’ voice. She asked for the female counsellor and the
voice confirmed that it was them. Initially Lucy was a little taken aback as she had not
expected the counsellor to be a trans woman however actually it was great as
Lucy was able to relax and talk about everything knowing that the person at the
end of the phone probably knew exactly how she had been feeling all these years
and how she feels now. I think Lucy opened up more than she would have done if
it had been a CIS woman. Also this was the first time that Lucy had spoken
about her life from childhood to now, her feelings, dysphoria and more to
anyone else other than me.
It is times like this when
Lucy is recounting conversations that I get to learn new things about feelings
and experiences she has had over the years. It’s not that she doesn’t tell me things
or deliberately withholds anything however I know she has not told me
everything, not because she doesn’t want to, but more that it just hasn’t
arisen in conversation. I am always keen to know as much as I can as I feel it
just gives me a deeper understanding of her. I just want to hold her hand for
every step of this journey we are on. I do love this woman so damn much!
The session was meant to be
40 mins however after 55 mins the counsellor said she had to go as she had
another session in 5 mins. Lucy felt like she had only been on the phone for
about 5 mins not 55 and that the conversation just flowed. They chatted about
everything from her childhood and earliest memories right up until now, the
dysphoria feelings, depression, dressing, going out, family, life, previous relationships
and our relationship as well as expectations and future plans.
She told Lucy she had really
enjoyed chatting with her and could have chatted for many more hours and Lucy felt the same. She said that she would write up her report to Dr
Webberley in the next day or so but also that she was supporting Lucy in her
request for treatment which was great news. When I came home and saw Lucy after
her call she just looked so radiant, happy and just so ‘girlie’. And so it seems
another step has been taken on this long and winding road. Fingers crossed she
gets the first batch or hormones next week. Exciting times indeed!
In the meantime she has used
the IPL for the first round of treatment on her face, chest and tonight I’m
going to do her bum and backs of her thighs. It says that you needs 4-5
sessions with 2 weeks in between for each area so we are not expecting to see any difference
for a while.
The Facebook partner support
group I have mentioned before in previous posts seems to have had a few new
members join in the last week and a couple of people in particular have the
same outlook and attitude to me as well as having a few children. It is great to meet
people who you can identify with, have lots in common with and can support each
other. Heres to new friendships!